Whatever . . .


What is unconditional love?


Looking into my babies eyes and realizing I’d do anything for this eighteen pounder.
Is it unconditional love to want her to have a happy, healthy, successful life – and realizing I’ll do everything to get it for her. I’ll wake up before the sun is up to drive to sports practice, I’ll give up my own dreams and desires, both financially and time-wise, to make sure this little munchkin gets every thing she needs to succeed: the best education, the best clothes I can afford. I dream of opening her eyes to wonders this world has to offer , going to Disneyland, and to the ocean, and to the zoo, museums, concerts and plays. Is it unconditional love to want to make this child’s life easy and joyful?



Looking into my teens eyes and realizing I’d do anything for this beautiful young lady. Is it unconditional love to want to take all the pain she’s faced and replace it with joy? Wanting so much to give her all the things she hasn’t had – anything our money would buy, and our time would allow. We gave her experiences she’d never had that opened her eyes to the world around her, Disneyland, the ocean, air plane rides, and road trips. Is it unconditional love to want this teen’s life to be free from pain, easy, joyful, and successful?
I want so much to give my children every perfect gift, the American Dream, and an apple pie, but this isn’t unconditional love. Unconditional love is wanted the best for my them, and the best isn’t rapped in a good education, a star performance, a perfect appearance, or a happy life. The best is glorifying God in everything you do. So, unconditional love is praying that God will do “whatever it takes” to bring these kids, His kids, to a place in which they glorify Him.

For my oldest, God just whispered in his ear. For my next, God took away all her hopes and dreams, her health and her friends. For my next son, God has allowed him to witness things far beyond what is age appropriate. But, by the grace of God, all are choosing to glorify Him. And they have joyous lives, for there is no joy apart from a life in God’s arms.

I pray for my other two. I pray my eighteen pounder will listen to God’s voice from an early age, but if not, “Whatever it takes, Lord.”

And as for my beautiful teen, I wish I could protect her from any more pain, but she’s walked away from our protection. I just pray she won’t walk away from Gods. I pray that God will do “whatever it takes” to bring her to a place where her only desire is to glorify God.

The scariest prayer to pray is that those you love will have to go through “whatever it takes.” But if “whatever it takes” will bring them to their knees before a holy God – then bring it on.

Unconditional love is praying “Whatever it takes, Lord” even when your earthly desires cry out against such a prayer.

One response

  1. Joyce, thanks for sharing. As I read your post, this scripture came to mind to encourage you to keep praying. The earnest, heartfelt, continued prayer of a righteous man makes tremendous power available [dynamic in its working].

    Elijah was a human being with a nature such as we have [with feelings, affections, and a constitution like ours]; and he prayed earnestly for it not to rain, and no rain fell on the earth for three years and six months. And [then] he prayed again and the heavens supplied rain and the land produced its crops [as usual].
    The Lord hears and is answering your prayers.
    Bless you,


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